Someone forcfully touched my penis am i gay

When it comes to sexual trauma, however, often we are socially prompted to wonder if gayness has been caused by the abuse. For most people, a first experience with someone else's junk is awkward, surprising, and pretty hard to forget. Meaning, if I, a woman, was abused by a woman I might be prompted to wonder if I am now gay because of that experience.

I strongly suggest you work with a good therapist who can help you navigate the symptoms of your PTSD and anxiety disorder and create a safe environment for you to continue to untangle these questions about your sexuality.

Your sexuality, however, is a fluid entity that is part of who you are, not a symptom of what someone did to you. Putting it in your mouth, though, definitely gay. Best Of Readers Choice Local Advertisers. Privacy Policy.

If you’re scared someone else thinks you’re gay, that’s not about your sexuality, that’s about other people’s opinions.

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Yana Tallon-Hicks is a pleasure-positive sex writer and educator living in the Pioneer Valley. We asked young people around Australia to describe what happened. He asked if he could touch my penis or give me a handjob and I told him that was gay and I didn’t feel comfortable.

The things that trigger traumatic reactions are often environmental and can be as simple as a sound, a smell, or a time of year. If you feel gross when you touch a penis, that tells you you might not be gay. On the other hand, the notion that your sexual identity is a symptom of your abuse is stickier to me.

Because of that I have PTSD and an anxiety disorder that makes the idea of being intimate with someone with a penis terrifying — even if I have romantic feelings for them. She has a website bursting with sex advice, resources, and workshops at yanatallonhicks.

Because your triggers like penises are something that you can learn to manage with strong therapeutic help. He told me it was okay and it wasn’t gay and I said okay, but not yes and he grabbed my penis and started rubbing it through my pajama pants.

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If that bothers you, you should concentrate more on accepting your desire to suck cock than what does or does not define gay. These big questions you pose are important and absolutely worthwhile to continue to explore outside of what this wee sex column can offer, and I hope you do so keeping this important difference between triggers and sexuality in mind.

A significant body part used to inflict harm on you certainly can trigger a negative response in you, and understandably so. All are welcome to reach out to me for local therapist recommendations. Why are these two things important for you to know as you move forward?

E-Edition Read E-Edition. I've had many accidental penis touches by men in the course of my sporting career, but that's whatever. That’s not “feeling gay.” Touching someone’s penis without their consent is a serious crime in most of the world.